No one said it's easy. But most would say it's not as hard as being gone. She's missing those things in exchange for life. Those are three prices for three lives that all should have ended without a second though. She gave up what she did so that both of you could have another chance.

Living without them may not be easy. But it's still living. And if you think she values what she lost more than she values you, then you're underestimating her and yourself.